You do not have to ‘reinvent the wheel’ to make a difference or add value to your sense of worth.
What does it mean to be the greatest version of yourself? Can we cultivate our life to not only include but embrace ‘small steps’ that lead to greater happiness and kindness on a daily basis? And if doing those things, would our days be more fulfilling and allow us to more easily ride the uneasy ‘waves’ that life throws at us?
The answer to this is an unequivocal YES!
This morning I went to yoga and at the end of class, the yoga instructor wished for us a day where we were able to do something nice for ourselves and asked that we share a random smile with a stranger. What a lovely intention for the day!
Kindness for the self and kindness for another human.
So why is that so powerful? Does it mean that you are trying to embrace a greater version of yourself? Absolutely.
We have gotten so caught up in thinking that we are not doing enough and constantly keep re-setting the bar to do more, be more, etc… that the little things in life often get overlooked and they tend to be the most important and have the most impact.
I remember always being reminded as a child to ‘put one step in front of another’. Every step leads you towards a destination. You do not get from A to Z without first going to B, then C, then D, etc…
These small steps create ripples, just like a stone being thrown into the middle of a pond, you can witness the result and watch how the ripples ‘impact’ more than just the spot where the stone was thrown.
An action that is positive in nature feels good. And with time one positive action, becomes two positive actions and before you know it all of your ‘so-called’ small steps become a field of positivity that impacts not only yourself but many others in your family, your neighbourhood and your community.
There are so many positive ways in which we can practice being a better version of ourselves. Maybe you pick up some trash that you found on the sidewalk or in a park instead of ignoring it. Have you not just benefited the environment and shown care so that others may enjoy a clean environment? Perhaps it is simply that you are going to go outside, take a deep breath and get some fresh air so that you are feeling more relaxed and less stressed. Is that not benefiting, not only you but perhaps your colleagues and family too? The random smile that someone receives may just be the one thing that person really needed that day to see that someone else cares. And even if the person does not respond with a smile or a nod of the head in return, does it really matter?
If your intention is clear and not based on an expectation that they have to smile back at you, you will slowly begin to recognize that you are feeling better within yourself.
The beautiful thing that you will then notice is how many of these so-called ‘small steps’ actually lead to something that is more meaningful and has an impact on your total sense of well-being.
1. Emotionally, you are happier,
2. Physically, you have more energy,
3. Spiritually, feelings of contentment arise,
4. Mentally, your mindset shifts by the very action of focusing on someone else and then you are less worried, preoccupied, and more present.
You do not have to ‘reinvent the wheel’ to make a difference or add value to your sense of worth. It is not about being perfect and it most definitely includes moments where we may feel we could have acted better or responded better in a situation. But guess what? That’s life. We are here to learn and grow and part of that process is making mistakes. It has never been about living a life free of flaws. That is impossible and is not the point of this conversation.
The point of this conversation is to remind each and everyone of you including myself that:
Living a life to the best of your ability is actually BEING ‘the greatest version of yourself’!
It is that simple.
Victor Perton: Tami, what are the unique qualities of leadership in Australia and by Australians?
I believe one of the unique qualities of leadership in Australia is an Australian’s sense of humour. Some may or may not view that as a quality of leadership, however, I believe if you are able to make people feel at ease and are able to find some ‘common ground’ through humour than that is when you can really begin to have a positive impact.
Breaking down barriers between people regardless of gender, race, age, socioeconomic background, religion, etc… is incredibly important as our focus should be on finding solutions and not focusing on problems. This is definitely one of Australia’s and Australians’ strengths in leadership.
Victor Perton: Tami, what are the qualities that Australians seek from their leaders?
Honesty is first and foremost with what Australians are looking for when they look at leaders in many different fields. Honesty lends itself then to being a person that is Trustworthy and has Integrity.
I believe those are the 3 most important characteristics that Australians seek to find in their leaders:
Victor Perton: Tami, what is your favourite story of a contemporary Australian leader?
My favourite story is David Bussau AO who was raised in an orphanage after being abandoned by his parents and who went on to create MicroFinancing for the poorest of peoples around the world. Initially, he was an entrepreneur who then gave it all away at 35 years of age to create enterprise solutions to poverty through Opportunity International. He is honest, humble, an amazing humanitarian and truly one of the greatest ‘social’ leaders in the 21st century in my opinion. I remember hearing him speak and he said he believed he was put on this planet to do something good for God and that is what he has been trying to do ever since. He called it is his ‘bank account’ with God and he was working towards credit. Very funny comment and once again I heard and saw how an Australians sense of humour endeared himself to those around him.
Victor Perton: Tami, what’s been important in developing your leadership journey?
This is going to come across quite biased I am sure but I would have to say that I have learned about leadership from having watched my husband, Paul Roos, over the past 28 years.
I have watched Paul develop into one of the most respected leaders in the AFL firstly as a player when he captained Fitzroy which then culminated to one of the games highest honours when he was named as captain of the Victorian State of Origin team. As a player, I remember people commenting that he was the ‘general’ on the field. Always trying to impart knowledge to the younger players and directing his teammates while on the field.
I later watched him develop into a very respected coach bringing the Sydney Swans to their first Premiership win in 72 years. What has always stood out for me though was Pauls wish to empower his players, an area that he felt needed developing within the AFL industry. I have watched this transformation first hand and know the respect with which his past players (Sydney Swans and Melbourne Demons), peers, media, etc…hold him in.
Paul allowed the players to set their own set of behaviours which they would be held accountable by, introduced new training standards that he had learned from visiting professional teams in the USA and lived by his infamous 25 points, his ‘ gospel’, which he wrote when he retired as a player after 17 years of playing. He wrote those points so that he would never forget what it was like to be a player and could refer back to those points as a coach.
Paul has always had an ‘open door’ policy with his players and staff and encouraged strong relationships. I believe Paul’s qualities as a leader are enhanced by his communication skills, calm demeanour (especially in a very stressful environment), and always putting family first. He has the ability to find balance off the field and strongly encourages meditation, visualisation, yoga and other modalities that he knows helps others sense of well being.
There is much written and spoken about meditation these days. The ancient sages, prophets, and yogis all declared the many benefits of meditation thousands of years ago.
Scientific communities around the globe have conducted more than a 1000 research and review papers about the many benefits of meditation.
The conclusion of these studies have supported the ancients ~ Meditation works.
My journey with meditation began in 1999. It is still ongoing and my daily practice is nonnegotiable. I love it!
What is meditation?
Meditation is learning to relax the body and quiet the mind.
It is simple and easy. Any man, woman or child can practice. It is not defined by religion, gender, race, or socio-economic means. You don’t have to sit in the lotus position or take yourself off to a cave.
And if practiced regularly will have a bigger impact on your health and wellbeing than you could possibly imagine.
In order for you to understand a bit better where I am coming from I want to take you back to 1999. I learned to meditate while embarking on a weekend meditation course in Primordial Sound Meditation. I hadn’t really heard much about meditation. In fact, I really didn’t know what it was.
But I went along as a girlfriend was singing its praises. The decision to learn to meditate was one of the best decisions I have ever made and meditation has had a positive impact on my life since then.
I don’t want to give you the impression that everyone has the same experience with meditation. Because they don’t. Meditation is and will be unique to anyone that practices and the longer you meditate the more you will benefit because the benefits are real.
We live in an incredibly fast paced world and the demands are great. The technology craze has had many benefits in that we can access information quicker than ever before and we have become accustomed to how instantaneous it is.
However, this also brings with it some downfalls. Primarily, most people don’t know how to shut off anymore. From the mobile phone, to instant messaging, Facebook, Instagram, emails, etc… we are on 24/7. We then add on to that the demands of careers, family, friends, school, etc… all the many details that make up our life and we wonder why we feel stressed.
So what happened to me and what did I experience so that I could begin to recognise that I had to honour myself and slow down?
Initially, I noticed two things. First, I ‘craved’ my meditation practice and couldn’t get enough of it. And second, I felt incredibly tired and couldn’t understand why.
After a few weeks of practice, I began to comprehend that I felt this way because for the first time in my life I was honouring the importance of slowing down and ‘pausing’ thus looking after my mind. I then began to notice that the longer I practiced I had more energy, felt calmer and more relaxed, slept better and truly felt that I had more patience with my young family.
But the big ‘aha’ moment came when a neighbour of ours asked me what I was doing as I seemed different! At first, I replied that nothing was different and then she added you are more relaxed and seem to be ‘glowing’.
Then the lightbulb went off and I knew it was the meditation practice and in my mind I went back to what the instructor had told us that first weekend a couple months earlier. She said, “you may not think anything is happening to you but you will know it is working when others begin to comment”!
That was my validating moment because the changes I was experiencing, others were noticing.
I am incredibly passionate about the state of well-being you can experience if you meditate.
So much so that after meditating for a few years I not only began teaching meditation privately to clients/students but I pursued a PhD in Parapsychic Science and wrote my dissertation on meditation and the many benefits to the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual bodies.
There is a wealth of wisdom inside of you, hidden gems waiting to be discovered.
Meditation is a gift. It is there for all of us to tap into. Honour yourself and enjoy a practice that will bring you clarity of thinking, peace of mind and greater contentment.
~ Tami Roos, PhD
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Tami Roos is an author, meditation facilitator and intuitive counsellor.
American born, Tami was raised in Santa Clara, California before relocating to Australia in 1993 after marrying her husband, Paul. She currently resides in Melbourne, Australia with her husband and two sons.
She attended San Diego State University where she received her undergraduate degree in International Commerce (BA) and spent her third year of university abroad in Salamanca, Spain furthering her Spanish studies. She completed her MBA in International Management at the Monterey Institute for International Studies with an emphasis in trade and marketing in the spring of 1991.
In the fall of 1999, she attended a Deepak Chopra primordial sound meditation workshop and embraced a daily practice of meditation.
Wishing to follow her passion, Tami gained a PhD in Parapsychic Science from the American Institute of Holistic Theology in 2007 and wrote her dissertation on the beneficial effects of meditation. She has been teaching meditation for the past 13 years and facilitates a developmental course in meditation, which draws on her own experiential experience. Tami is an experienced public speaker and also teaches popular corporate meditation programs.
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Who here has had the experience of waking up feeling good, your morning is running smoothly and maybe you have had time for some exercise (and for me meditation) and you’re on cloud nine? You know today is going to be a good day.
And then you turn on the news and/or radio or grab the newspaper and read about the current state of the world, local crime, the latest murder, weather patterns, etc… and you feel all of that positive energy being drained right out of you.
Why did something as simple as that impact your mood and your energy levels?
I mean why would ‘hearing’ about the latest current events impact you so much? We are bombarded by news and information daily, hourly, and minute-to-minute each and every day. Every one of us is subject to it and yet who questions why it has such a big impact on us?
The effect is real because we are all interconnected. What happens to one of us is literally ‘felt’ by all. Our humanity is impacted because at the root of every person we all want to experience happiness, peace and love.
The very idea for this blog came from reading a simple wish that said, “One day, I would like to turn on the news and hear, there’s Peace on Earth.”
The negative news around us makes us doubt that it is possible and that we don’t have much chance of experiencing peace with the way world events are playing out and for that matter, SOME peoples choices to engage is acts that are incredibly violent or harmful to another human being.
Notice I have said SOME people. Not all people, only some people.
The minority is having a great impact on the majority of people with these careless acts but it does not mean that we don’t have the ability to impact our lives positively and thus impact the lives of those around us!
When things are playing out in the world that make me feel as if all is chaos I try to remember and embrace some simple truths~
I AM responsible for my words, deeds, actions and thoughts!
I am able to choose whether or not I watch the news.
I am able to choose whether I will respond to the news I have heard by ‘feeding the fear’ with negative thoughts.
I am able to offer kindness to another any given day with something as simple as a hello or a smile.
I AM responsible for the energy I bring into a space.
I am’ unable’ to control another person’s thoughts, words, deeds and actions.
I am able to tap into the power of prayer.
What is the greatest risk to any of us going through these challenging times? It is losing hope and letting fear win. Do you stay inside, avoid crowds, stop travelling, as I have heard some people suggest?
Ask yourself; Will living with restrictions prevent more ‘bad news’ from happening?
Will living an existence that is full of fear help you? Does it change anything? Will it have more of a negative impact on your life and the lives of family, friends and community (we are all interconnected).
Or will living your life to the fullest have more benefits?
The reward for being positive rather than negative is far greater than you can imagine.
Living from a space of joy will bring greater happiness not only to you but to others as well. You will foster greater peace and contentment within your being and you will exude an energy that people gravitate towards because you are positive.
From where I stand, I feel focusing on a solution rather than focusing on the problem is a much better choice.
‘Like energy attracts’– positivity attracts more positivity, negativity attracts more negativity. Exponentially each and every one of us can do something today that will help our self, help others and help the planet just by choosing to be ‘helpful, kind, responsible, positive, caring, compassionate, hopeful, benevolent, etc…
And at the end of the day, if after my best efforts I am struggling with being positive then I choose to hand it over to a higher power and pray.
I pray for the world I wish to see; a world that is filled with love, peace on earth, and kindness to all.
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